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You mentioned that Bob makes an adequate boyfriend, but based on his actions you've described he sounds like *bad* boyfriend.
The letter she wrote is likely appropriate, even if it voices her disapproval of him as a boyfriend. I think your gf, as a friend of Nicole, has a right to voice disapproval of Bob because she thinks she would be better off and happier without him. One of my concerns with disallowing Bob to come to your apt. so much is that I wonder if Bob will make Nicole go out more, which will probably mean more money leeching from her.
I think the source of the problem is Nicole's attachment to him. She's not going to leave him because she's attached and her attachment is probably what keeps him there in the first place. What about inviting good guys over for a small party at your place (since it sounds like she doesn't go out much). Introduce her to better prospects and maybe she'll come to realize that what she has is not that great. Also, if she does go out (or even if she doesn't) encourage her to go to more social gatherings where she will have better chances of meeting new people.
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