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raeanna74 · 07-30-2003, 07:11 AM

Dei37 and I have a girl who is 3 but as I look for new clothes for her and she begins to grow out of her old ones I'm having to cross over from the babies section to the girls section of clothes and I don't much like what I see. She has already begun to notice what the other girls in the neighborhood have to wear and when she got one outfit for her Birthday she promptly put it on to run outside and tell her neighbor "I have dress like you!" Obviously this is going to cause some complications down the road. I've already seen her picking out the more revealing clothes in the store. This spring I found a hard time finding a simple one piece swimsuit to fit her. The "bigger" the size the less material was in it and the more they were only offering bikinis.

The shorts are getting shorter and I don't see an end in sight soon. I remember this faze passing through when I was a preteen and my parents freaked when I wore the short-shorts. I learned that my Dad was my best critic and whenever my mother and I debated about clothes my Mom would tell me "Go ask your Dad - He'll be able to tell you what that would make a guy think." And he was honest - sometimes he would say something was ok and other times he wouldn't - but he'd tell me exactly what the guy was thinking. Hearing my Dad tell me that sort of thing mortified me as a preteen so I never argued and quickly conceded. I intend to do the same with my husband and he (dei37) has already vetoed a few items at least until I alter them.

I hope we can keep her from going to far overboard. I want to teach her to respect her body and to not be ashamed of it. I want her to have enough self confidence to choose the clothes that she likes and not the clothes that Media and her friends like. I want her to have enough self respect not to dress herself in such a way as to project a "slutty" image.

Peer pressure will be the biggest battle I believe and it's one of the many reasons that I am seriously considering homeschooling our girl.

07-30-2003, 07:11 AM	#22 (permalink)
raeanna74 I'm not a blonde! I'm knot! I'm knot! I'm knot! Location: Upper Michigan	Dei37 and I have a girl who is 3 but as I look for new clothes for her and she begins to grow out of her old ones I'm having to cross over from the babies section to the girls section of clothes and I don't much like what I see. She has already begun to notice what the other girls in the neighborhood have to wear and when she got one outfit for her Birthday she promptly put it on to run outside and tell her neighbor "I have dress like you!" Obviously this is going to cause some complications down the road. I've already seen her picking out the more revealing clothes in the store. This spring I found a hard time finding a simple one piece swimsuit to fit her. The "bigger" the size the less material was in it and the more they were only offering bikinis. The shorts are getting shorter and I don't see an end in sight soon. I remember this faze passing through when I was a preteen and my parents freaked when I wore the short-shorts. I learned that my Dad was my best critic and whenever my mother and I debated about clothes my Mom would tell me "Go ask your Dad - He'll be able to tell you what that would make a guy think." And he was honest - sometimes he would say something was ok and other times he wouldn't - but he'd tell me exactly what the guy was thinking. Hearing my Dad tell me that sort of thing mortified me as a preteen so I never argued and quickly conceded. I intend to do the same with my husband and he (dei37) has already vetoed a few items at least until I alter them. I hope we can keep her from going to far overboard. I want to teach her to respect her body and to not be ashamed of it. I want her to have enough self confidence to choose the clothes that she likes and not the clothes that Media and her friends like. I want her to have enough self respect not to dress herself in such a way as to project a "slutty" image. Peer pressure will be the biggest battle I believe and it's one of the many reasons that I am seriously considering homeschooling our girl. __________________ "Always learn the rules so that you can break them properly." Dalai Lama My Karma just ran over your Dogma.