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raeanna74 · 07-29-2003, 06:18 PM

"What if your girlfriend was raped, and got pregnant would you want to raise the son of a rapist?"

If that was me that was raped and my husband/boyfriend wanted me to "Kill" (that's what it would feel like to me in my mind) a child that was half mine just because he hated the guts of the guy who messed with me it would be extremely painful. I think I'd dump him. On the one hand I wouldn't want to have that reminder but on the other hand I would have the "gift" of a child to care for. To me every child is a miracle. It isn't their fault how they were concieved and I wouldn't feel right taking from them the opportunity to be born and grow into profitable responsible adults.

NOW to address the original question. I personal don't condone abortion simply as a way out of responsibility - i.e. in any case other than protecting the health of the mother or if she so chooses HERSELF in the case of rape or molestation. I wouldn't make any rash decisions. I would earnestly encourage you NOT to put ANY pressure whatsoever on the mother SIMPLY because you don't want problems with her parents or don't want to deal with a child. I feel strongly about taking responsibility for your actions. If you were having sex without one or the other of you being "fixed" then there was a chance - even with protection - that you could have a kid. If her parents are going to be upset with you it will either be because you weren't responsible when having sex, OR you weren't supposed to be having sex.

IF you BOTH choose to have an abortion you BOTH need to go to professional counseling - You have no idea how this sort of thing can mess with you if you aren't prepared for it, and know what's going on. Also you need to stand by your girl even when she goes through the grieving process. She WILL have regrets. I think both of you might. BUT you need to help each other through that. I wish you good luck in any outcome that you choose.

07-29-2003, 06:18 PM	#27 (permalink)
raeanna74 I'm not a blonde! I'm knot! I'm knot! I'm knot! Location: Upper Michigan	"What if your girlfriend was raped, and got pregnant would you want to raise the son of a rapist?" If that was me that was raped and my husband/boyfriend wanted me to "Kill" (that's what it would feel like to me in my mind) a child that was half mine just because he hated the guts of the guy who messed with me it would be extremely painful. I think I'd dump him. On the one hand I wouldn't want to have that reminder but on the other hand I would have the "gift" of a child to care for. To me every child is a miracle. It isn't their fault how they were concieved and I wouldn't feel right taking from them the opportunity to be born and grow into profitable responsible adults. NOW to address the original question. I personal don't condone abortion simply as a way out of responsibility - i.e. in any case other than protecting the health of the mother or if she so chooses HERSELF in the case of rape or molestation. I wouldn't make any rash decisions. I would earnestly encourage you NOT to put ANY pressure whatsoever on the mother SIMPLY because you don't want problems with her parents or don't want to deal with a child. I feel strongly about taking responsibility for your actions. If you were having sex without one or the other of you being "fixed" then there was a chance - even with protection - that you could have a kid. If her parents are going to be upset with you it will either be because you weren't responsible when having sex, OR you weren't supposed to be having sex. IF you BOTH choose to have an abortion you BOTH need to go to professional counseling - You have no idea how this sort of thing can mess with you if you aren't prepared for it, and know what's going on. Also you need to stand by your girl even when she goes through the grieving process. She WILL have regrets. I think both of you might. BUT you need to help each other through that. I wish you good luck in any outcome that you choose. __________________ "Always learn the rules so that you can break them properly." Dalai Lama My Karma just ran over your Dogma.