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Old 07-28-2003, 11:48 PM   #2 (permalink)
dod123
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To help weed out certain things i've already thought of and/or tried, let me make a few more comments.

1. Though i value all opinions, i'm really not interested in "it's none of my business breaking up other people" etc etc. The story is incomplete, there is more to it, and i feel the need to do something to "butt in" if it must be called that.

2. Though we both would prefer them not to be together, I'm interested in the happiness of my gf first, Nicole second, and me, well, i'm pretty laid back, if they're happy, they won't make me unhappy O.o (i jest, my gf makes me very happy when she's happy)

3. I've had several long talks with Nicole about these issues already; she does try to improve upon them, but inevitably, there's only so much she can do.

4. The real problem here is that she is overly attached to him, and he has no good reason to let her go. This conflicts with the view that we (we being my gf and myself always) find them too attached, and that their relationship is going nowhere and we don't want to see Nicole hurt.

5. I will, and have before, successfully, broken up a couple I get fed up with (both of whom were and still are my friends) with EXTREME caution, attention to detail, and getting the story directly from both sides (essentially she wanted him, and he didn't want her, but didn't feel like breaking up with her, and she got dragged along for the ride for a few more months before i had no more ideas and told her the truth, and they talked and broke up)

6. If my gf and Nicole weren't roommates then it again wouldn't be a problem, but since Bob is staying at THEIR apartment (for the summer, our apartment, since i am paying rent) it becomes our problem.

7. I'm not looking for an all powerful solution, mainly just opinions, if you guys have the time and patience to give it.

8. I'm sure i can list another 100 things to put here, but i'll wait and see if anyone responds anytime and then post accordingly because i think i might be overstepping the bounds of the forum here, , i'd hate for someone to think i'm turning TFP into a dating advice column.

P.S. I am new to the forums, please PM me if there's any general advice about my post you want to give me, thanks.
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