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Originally posted by The.Lunatic
one on one with members of the opposite sex leads to other things and then your definitly cheating.
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It's entirely possible to spend time with someone of the opposite sex and never see them as "relationship" material. I spend time with two girls who will always be friends, but you won't see us doing any "other things". (granted, these two girls are my twin's exes, but..)
Just the same, that doesn't mean your friend's girlfriend is going to enjoy it. There's going to be the issue of Trust. Even if right now she trusts him implicitly, that doesn't mean she's going to enjoy the thought of him spending tons of time with some girl she doesn't know. If he sees this other girl as a friend and wants to keep it that way it'd be a wise idea to stop seeing her alone (at least as often). Getting the two of them to meet would be a great step, and your buddy Walter needs to make certain he discloses everything that might happen between him and this girl. If he doesn't, it's likely that jealousy is going to grow in his girlfriend's mind.
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Originally posted by rodgerd
Well, if the Walter is heterosexual and the friend were male, would there be any angst here? I mean, if he had a friend he liked to grab a meal and a movie with, would this be a big ol' problem?
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I used to feel the same way as
rodgerd, but unfortunately people don't see it this way when they're in a relationship. The girlfriend isn't going to see this relationship as just another friend, she's going to see competition. Walter is going to be doubted, seen as unfaithful, etc. etc. To maintain a healthy relationship, DISCLOSE EVERYTHING (within reason -- good sense will tell you what not to say, like.. answering that stupid "do I look fat?" question).
I've had something similar happen to me. That's my experience.