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Simo,
I think that I know what you're going through. I've been in this situation before, and it sucks. I basically spent most of the time screaming the same things that you've seen above at myself.
This was with my best friend from high school's girlfriend while we were in college. We met up for New Year's Eve one year, and my friend and another friend basically played pool all night, ignoring us at the bar. I had just broken up with my girlfriend of several months and was still getting over that. Laura and I ended up "hooking up" in the back of the van that we all came in, and then again back at her place where we stopped for a drink on the way home.
Where my story diverges from most of the others is that I apologized to Bill, and we went about our lives as usual. Two years later, after we both graduated, I went back to visit him. He and Laura had broken up by then (surprising who?), but they were still good friends. She and I ended up hooking up again, and started dating, and lived together for 2 years. We broke up when I got a job in LA, and she didn't want to move out there. That was about 8 years ago, and we're both married to other people now, but we still talk from time to time.
What does all that mean? Well sometimes, it's the worst thing that you can do. Othertimes, maybe not. People sleeping around is usually the sign of a problem, either with the relationship or with themselves. Marriage should change things, but in my experience, it usually doesn't.
That's my story. Hope it helps.
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