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Originally posted by MichaelFarker
Rockzilla said a slut is someone who uses sex as a substitute for self-esteem.
What about this? Say a man and a woman are both virgins when the marry and are monogamous throughout 30 years of marriage. The wife is about to finish law school and is interviewing for a position at a prestigous law firm. The night before the interview, her husband wants to bolster her self-esteem. He prepares and feeds her favorite meal to her. He then gives her a very sensuous bath lit only by 2 dozen candles. He follows this by giving her a deep, intimate massage. He takes her to the bed they've shared for all those years and is sexually generous for 3 hours.
This, of course, does wonders for her self-esteem. Though she's in her 50's, she feels young and dynamic due to the sex she had. Does this make her a slut?
Perhaps monogamy and faitfhful concern for your lover are important. I cannot imagine ever calling anyone a slut though.
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There's a difference between the situation you mentioned and what I had intended, that is, someone who bases their self-worth solely on how many partners they've had. In your situation, the husband is going out of his way to do something special for his wife out of love, he's trying to make her feel good about herself. There's a huge difference between love and sex.