Donkeypuncher

I'm with bryanzera on this one... ask women out. Repetedly. You'll get a LOT of "no" and you won't fear it as much. Being turned down isn't as scary as it gets made out to be and she's definitely not going to go out with you if you don't ask. At least the odds are going up, right?

I was really introverted when I was a teenager and it took some time to get over it and when I did, I realized how much time I'd wasted and how many women probably would have gone out with me if I'd just asked. I still get butterflies, but I've learned to enjoy feeling something... whatever it is... it's part of being alive.

A close friend of mine still does this once in a while and he gets assignments when he gets like that... we get together with the guys once a week to smoke cigars and talk and he'll owe me 3 to 10 no's by the next time I see him... depending on how caved in I see he is. How that works is: he has to ask out as many women as he has to get those no's... even if there is a yes or two along the way, he has to keep going until the required amount of no's has been attained. It always gets him out of the funk and it usually gets him some dates.

I know you said you don't have a lot of friends so meeting girls while just hanging out isn't getting it done, but you must go out of the house sometime, right? I'm sure you see girls you're attracted to when you're in a store, at a mall, whatever. Just walk right up to any girl you feel attracted to, tell her nicely what attracted you to her ("you have really pretty eyes") and ask her out. You will get turned down a lot but you quickly lose that fear of that happening. It's just a "no." Big whoop.

And always, be yourself. Play games our put on pretenses that aren't really you and even if you get a girl to go out with you, she probably won't stick around for long. Unless that's your plan... (grin)

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