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Originally posted by Minx
I don't think that is at all what KeyserSoze was saying. The point being made was that you went into this relationship knowing that she smokes...now you don't want her to. You are asking her to change something you knew about in advance.
If the roles were reversed how would you feel about it?
It's not a matter of a woman trying to change a man or vice versa it's a matter of accepting something she does that you don't like. Well, live with it or find someone who doesn't smoke. If she wants to quit then great...that's different - support her, help her. Denying her hugs and kisses, attention or trying to make her feel bad about her habit isn't going to help...if anything it will drive her away.
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there you go... in a nutshell. I've not read any other posts in this thread except this one.
All the bad habits I had before my wife and I started dating.. I still have today.. why? because I told her I had them for a reason and when I want to change them I will not you telling me to... and the same works for her habits and issues.
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