You know, the first thing that came to mind is... what's the infamous Mrs. Kata have to say about this?
Beyond that, things are usually what they seem in these matters, even if people don't want to admit it and she may not even have admitted it to herself. But really, what can you do? Make a case out of it and it'll just focus her attention on the situation and that'll never go well. If it's really, really bothering you and you can establish a pattern of this behavior, not just one drug 'n alcohol evening... talk to her about it calmly and rationally and let her know it makes you uncomfortable. If it continues... breaking up is about the only recourse. If things change, it's all good.
Even if it hurts, my viewpoint is always that if she'd rather be someone else, she should go do that and I'll get to work on finding someone who'd rather be with me. Plus, if it's headed south anyway, why prolong the pain? Get into that phase asap and the end will be closer.
But, that's just me...
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