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Originally posted by daoist
exactly. i think taking complete control of a situation and forcing your husband into counciling could make your husband think you're pressuring him.
Maybe if you asked a professional for some advice and applied that, it would be cool.
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I think that suggesting going to counselling(a council would be a group of people, as per the Council of Elrond, a counsellor is one ON a council. No such word as councilor or counciling.) together to discuss your situation shouldn't be construed as forcing him into it. If he reacts as if you
are doing that, I'd say remind him that you are suggesting this because you love him and want both of you to be happy. Getting things right early on in the marriage saves woes down the road. Unilateral application of advice strikes me as sort of underhanded, and if he would feel pressured by couple therapy, I can only imagine how he might react to being "tricked" into sex(which is NOT how I view following a professional's advice, nor likely how he would/does; I'm just supposing here).