I know you said not to get all emotional and to keep it "light" but the truth is this is no laughing matter! My ex smoked prior to us getting married. I asked him to quit and he did for 2 years. Then he started up again and "hid" it from me for 8 years. The problem is, one can't hide that he is smoking. He smelled bad and tasted bad. He was grumpy on the weekends. And he was lying to me and the children. Cigarettes are the most addictive drug out there. Just because they are legal, does not make them tolerable. If you don't like the smoking now -- you will like it even less when the "newness" wears off! Good luck.
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