I do have kids -- 5 of them. One was a real "brat." He was not allowed to disturb others in public! We used consequences, not punishement, to "control" his behavior. (I have never spanked!) Sorry J, but you have two choices, sit politely in the restaurant and visit or sit in the car while we eat. There were several meals he watched us eat from the car. The other 4 children and restaurant patrons appreciated the calm. It only took a couple of times of waiting in the car, for J to learn that I was serious and to "correct his behavior."
Good parenting is hard work! There is no such thing as the perfect parent, nor the perfect child. But it can be done and the only one to blame if misbehavior is allowed to continue is the parent.
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