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His looking at porn bothers me no more than me reading a "love" novel bothers him. They are simply a ways to a mean. Truth be known, I don't have the most wonderful body in the world; but my bf is with me! It is me, including who I am in bed, that he loves -- not my body. The woman and/or men on the net are just pictures. Who could love a picture?
That said, if/when I walk in on bf looking at porn, I simply put my lovely tits between him and the computer screen. The porn is of no interest now! Either that, or join him. I don't particularly get off on porn; but I like the artistic pictures. Why not enjoy with him because in the long run it is me he is thinking about!
It may be that his looking bothers you because of our societies extreme views which cause us, as woman, to question or own self image and value. Being confident in your lovers commitment to you and in your own esteem, helps tremedously, so do talk about it!
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If you can go deeply into lovemaking, the ego disappears. That is the beauty of lovemaking, that it is another source of a glimpse of god
It's not about being perfect; it's about developing some skill at managing imperfection.
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