unless your willing to make a concession of equal value or she hasnt been smoking for too long your probably going to have trouble with this one. It would be easier if you both could work together on fixing some of your bad habits so you could support each other and use one and others progress as inspiration. If thats not gonna be the case you need to realize you are asking her to change herself for your mutual relationship after you knew she was a smoker to begin with. Thats asking a lot from her. I think refusing to kiss her is the worst way to do it because you knew she was a smoker and she shouldnt be disciplined for going out with you. You could always try the "I care for you" approach but if that doesnt work I would say let her do what she is going to do. In every relationship you enter there will be habits that your significant other has that will bother you. If your willing to accept those habits and care for them for who they are your in a good relationship. If you make someone change after you enter a relationship with them your setting yourself up for a disaster.
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