Okay, folks. I guess I might as well mention that phredgreen seems to have bumped into a very old and (I think) very effective approach to male sexuality. See, dirty old Taoist men came to the conclusion that guys are all Yang when it comes to sex, while women are Yin. This means the boys expend energy when they orgasm, the girls gain energy. They're ready to work, clean, talk, or
(gasp) keep having more sex. We're ready to sleep. Or work. Or go fishing. Anything but keep having more sex. Not right away, at least. Younger guys will have to take my word on this. It becomes an issue later, although not as dramatic an issue as I'm making out here
The Taoists noticed that since we're expending energy, we boys are in danger of killing ourselves if we have too many orgasms. Not necessarily "death by ejaculation", mind you. But they felt that we would die younger, have less energy, and generally be difficult to be around because we'll get old and wonder why we don't have as much Yang to spend as we did when we were younger.
Their solution? Eat right, exercise regularly, and have lots of sex. Just don't ... you know ... oh, how can I put this delicately?
Don't come so damn often!
We generally think of ejaculation as orgasm. That release of energy is so overwhelming that we forget about the few seconds right before ejaculation. Those few seconds (where we start whimpering and occasionally calling out names) are, according to the dirty old Taoist men, the actual orgasm. At that point, you're super-charged, energized, and feel just about ready to take on the world. Then you slide into ejaculation, which, let's face it, feels really good too. It's a loud bang, and all of that energy you had built up a second ago is forced out with a rush. But, you know, after that is a nap. Or crankiness. Or maybe just a few moments where you're catching your breath and kinda wondering what happened.
The dirty old Taoist men think of that few seconds right before as orgasm, and figured out ways to extend it. So you end up with a long Yen orgasm like the girls get, where you are ready for anything after sex
except maybe a nap. More sex, for example. Plus it's less messy. Mind you, you can still ejaculate when you want to, but you don't need to do so in order to reach orgasm, and you don't need to ejaculate every time you have sex.
There are lots of exercises to make this experience easier to reach. Fun exercises, I might add. The basic one is this: when you masturbate, get yourself as close to the "point of no return" as possible, then stop. Give yourself a few seconds (or just stop and come back to it later). Try to build up the number of times you can reach that point without coming. Enjoy and extend that state of bliss right before. If nothing else, you will get a good awareness of your body
Here's a few books I can highly recommend on the subject:
So, yeah. Have fun. This turned into a
really long essay. Sorry about that, but quality of orgasm is something I care very deeply about
