Um.. Just saw this posted on a similar board just a few minutes ago.. As in, this is something of a repost, but
http://www.intellectualwhores.com/. About ladder theory. I think some of the above posts made slight references to it.
I just read that this evening so I haven't exactly been able to take the principles and put them into play. I personally have many female friends, and besides just about one really unusual, awesome, depressing, etc relationship, I seem to be stuck on the same boat as you. Except I just turned 18 and haven't exactly begun living in that scary place known as Real Life. Anyhow, a little information never hurt anyone, just take a look at that site, it's a bit vulgar, but it gets it's point across.
What type of music do you play, by the way, just out of curiosity?
And as for moving, Manhattan should give you the perfect chance to change yourself if you feel like doing so, or to merely readjust a bit of your behavior. Good luck.