Donkeypuncher

Depends on the woman. I'd say it's about half and half in my experience who like it but of those that do, a good portion of them claim to have never liked it at all prior to me. Maybe it's because I'm patient and gentle about it, maybe they're just saying that. (shrug) Moot point now, eh?

To get to the question more directly -- of the last two...

with the first one, it was slow and gentle. Started with a finger while eating her out. Don't go in right away... wait til she's really getting worked up and near a climax; it'll push her over the edge and plant a mental seed about that actually feeling good. When you do try it, as mentioned already, make sure there's plenty of lube and g o s l o w. I can't stress that enough. One painful experience early on and it'll never happen again. Let her tell you when it's ok to go deeper. Eventually (multiple sessions in the future), she'll get more relaxed with the process and this part won't take long at all. This woman (one who said she never liked it before me and would indulge once in a while just to make the guy happy) ended up requesting it at least once a week. The request (and I am NOT making this up)was usually something along the lines of "the butt needs some attention tonight." Oh, and she had this sweet southern accent... who could say no?

the current woman, well... a month into dating (a year ago), we're at her parent's house after a party and everyone's gone home (we were house-sitting for the weekend). We're in the jacuzzi, clothes come off, things are going nicely... I was behind her and she looks over her shoulder with a wicked smile, reaches back, grabs me and removes me from one place and places me in the other. And ummm, there ya go. It's been a friendly place ever since. Of course, I've found out over this past year that she is way more wild than she appears at first so it's no surprise now, but at the time... damn, Gina. One of the biggest turn-ons, ever.

Ultimately, you don't "get" her to do it. She likes it or not and if she doesn't, don't force it. C'est la vie. She may not know she likes it because she's been too afraid to try it or tried it with someone who just rammed something big in there and who the hell would like that under most any circumstance? Be patient and gentle. Work up to it over a month or two. make sure she's really turned on before you go there at all. Realize there are nights when she won't want to at all, even if she likes it other times. Be cool, communicate and really listen to what she says. You'd be surprised what kind of doors that'll open...