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Vaultboy · 07-06-2003, 08:42 PM

Here's a summarised list that I got from a girl on another forum. We call it: Doing Down 101.

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This is quite an individual thing actually, you'd be surprised how much "good technique" varies from one woman to the next.

A few things to think about:

a) Communication is king (or, perhaps, queen). If you can't tell what works and what doesn't just from her reactions, then you need to have her tell you or guide you in some way. If she's too embarassed to do that, then you need to get her feeling comfortable.

b) Feeling comfortable is a big thing for most women. No matter how good your technique is, many women won't reach orgasm unless they are relaxed. Often the main concern is that performing oral sex is unpleasant for you. Make sure she understands that you love it.

c) Women taste good. If you don't like it much at first, then you will soon. If it's *very* unpleasant, she may have an infection. The taste *will* be stronger after exercise, so keep that in mind if you have difficulties with it. Also the taste changes as a woman gets closer to orgasm. Anxiety about taste is one of the main problems women have when recieving oral sex. If you can't manage to convince her you like the taste and she shouldn't worry about it, take a shower with her first. The taste is very neutral right after a shower.

d) One thing nobody seems to expect is how hard it is. Your tongue *will* get tired, especially if you haven't done it much before. Change techniques to alleviate this, and don't forget that you don't necessarily have to move your tongue all the time, make good use of your lips, and movement of your head and neck.

I've been doing this seven years, now I can practically do push-ups with my tongue.

e) Some people will tell you things like "trace out the letters of the alphabet". That's crap. The only thing that is useful for is helping you get into a nice regular rhythm - the actual movements aren't that special, and if that's all you do chances are you'll have a lot of difficulty making her come.

f) Variety is good. Very good. But it's best early on, when you're teasing her and making sure she's very aroused. Variety isn't generally very good when you're going for the orgasm. Usually it takes something consistent to push her over the edge.

g) Don't go straight for her pussy. She should already be very aroused before you start. Pay attention to the rest of her body. Oral sex can be very uncomfortable for a woman if she isn't aroused when you start.

h) On the same note, often the clitoris is too sensitive to touch at first. This varies a lot from woman to woman, but in general you'll want to avoid it at first, just tease around it. Some women are too sensitive to ever have direct contact on the clit, in that situation you can stimulate it from the side, or through the clitoral hood if she's "hide and seek".

i) As you will have seen, and I mentioned earlier, PAY ATTENTION. If you know how she is feeling at each moment you're at least halfway to being great at oral sex.

j) The clitoris isn't the be all and end all of oral sex. You'll usually need to focus on it to get her to her orgasm, but the rest of the vulva is senstive too, and responds very well to attention.

k) One really common mistake guys make is to try and fuck a woman with their tongue. In general, this is really unimpressive. A few women like it a lot, and it can make a nice different sort of sensation, but most of the time you're much better off directing your attention to the labia and clitoris.

l) There are various "tricks" people use to make oral sex extra special, such as the hot/cold thing Calliope mentioned, and another common one is to do it with a peppermint in your mouth. Personally I think this stuff can be fun, but it's something you should be doing once you're already very good at oral sex, not when you're starting out.

m) Teeth are a BIG nono. Avoid, avoid, avoid. Under certain circumstances and for certain women, teeth gently used can have a place in oral sex, but it's really something you shouldn't even consider until you're a pro. And even when you are, my advice is don't consider it unless she actually asks for it.

n) Fingers can be useful additions or not depending on the woman. I could write a whole seperate post on the subject of using fingers. This is really something you're best off following the advice of your woman on (and learning by experimentation).

o) These are just guidelines. If your woman tells you to do something, DO IT. Regardless of whether or not it agrees with what I've said here. Nobody knows better what pleases a woman than the woman herself.