asdf, I too am a 22 year old virgin male who has never been kissed or had a girlfriend. I'm in the same "place" as you right now and it is affecting my overall health and emotional wellbeing. I, too, have had suicidal thoughts, but truthfully, it has been the image of my sobbing mother at my funeral that has kept the gun out of my hand.
I'm not sure how much else we have in common. Its hard to find friends like us, because who in our age group would concede to not being one of the womanizing beer-swilling guys... Noone wants to admit it -- either that or we're the only 2 on the planet.
Like you, I have trouble speaking with women. I have very particular interests and I just haven't found a woman that can related to them. I'm seriously into baseball, computers, my truck and church (although I'm not a holy roller, its just who I am) (BTW, if any ladies out there are interested contact me at: ---------------- LOL! remove the nospam part).
I have a handful of lady "friends" but nothing that will lead anywhere. I find that most of my female friends are girlfriends of my friends. I'm sure there are correlations in interests (eg, they are the _friend_ of someone I have similar interests with) but I think it boils down to my comfort around them. Its not a bar situation or a person I need to "impress" automatically. Not to be racist or anything, but I do the same thing when I'm around women of a different race -- because I'm not automatically thinking about a future girlfriend [I hesitatate to write this, because I'm really not a bigot, but I think its very relavent to "success" in speaking with women.].
ASDF, email me. I think we could have some decent productive conversations. ----------------- (remove the nospam part). No hate mail for my comment above. I'm not a racist.