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One thing I have learned about these types of relationships when one of the persons is already involved. The 3rd wheel often strengthens the first relationship. You in your situation may have given her the strength she needed to give her relationship with her boyfriend the boost it needed. Going into these types of relationships it helps to realize that. I don't know how that helps you but in future relationships it may be a help to know where things are going. Most "affairs" which is sortof what your relationship was with her end within only a few years. Those that don't will last until one or the other participant is discovered. If it's any consolation - you gave her a friend for all that time, someone to talk to, and someone to share love with. She needed those things if only for a short time from someone other than her boyfriend. You made her happy until she was able to go one alone. I'm sorry that it left you alone as well but if you learn from this relationship and remember that kind of tender love you felt I am sure you will be more successful in your own relationships in the future. In my opinion it is time for you to move on though. Even if she were to contact you there may be many problems that you will just be asking for if you get involved even in a friendship with her again. If she were to have left her boyfriend for you then in later years you would inevitably worry that she would do the same to you. Many times that is the case. Once you wander the temptation to do that again is too great. Be glad she is where she is and be thankful for the lessons you have learned. Good luck in finding your own woman to shower that same kind of love on.
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"Always learn the rules so that you can break them properly." Dalai Lama
My Karma just ran over your Dogma. 
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