All very deep questions, Lurkette.
First, I want to express again how sorry I am for your loss and to add that I, for one, do believe there is something more to this life than you're born, you live, and you die.
Why?
Because I've seen too much that speaks to something more. I also know too many people who have a "something" that only seems to come from a deep faith.
I know that doesn't make sense in a scientific way and please believe me when I say that I am nothing if not logical and sceptical.
But it is still there, these feelings, these observations and they lead me to believe in 'something' that sometimes I can't even get words around.
And I do acknowledge that I could just be "making it up" to assuage a fear of death, but again...I don't think I am.
That is of course, why it is called faith.
And in a purely logical world, it will never ever make sense. But in the chambers of the human heart, it DOES seem to make sense.
My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family
edit to add:
Oh and I see I didn't answer your question exactly.
For me, my faith is a conscious decision everyday. I personally have never had a "damascus" experience.