What a complicated subject with no easy answer! I had two kids; spanked on and not the other and there ended up being no difference. The one that never got spanked responded to your body language and words. The other responded to very little unless you grabbed his atttention.
If the intended result is to change behavior, there are many other ways. The biggest motivator is avoidance of pain. Beyond that the field gets muddy. I think *most* people spank because it makes them feel better. However, that doesn't get to the heart of the issue - the reason for the negative behavior in the first place.
Like I saod, a complicated issue!
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