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Personally, I am not bothered by it.
And the fact is that I have 50 times more porn on my hard drive than my husband does. (He loves to make his friends jealous by telling them this. *boggle*)
However, if you are bothered by it, you have every right to feel that way. You have a right to your feelings. And you can ask your man to stop.. but chances are very slim that he will no matter how much he promises. Most guys seem to think it's better/easier to just say they won't look at it and then sneak around behind their SO's back.
I've talked to several guys about this and I always tell them the same thing. They should first try and be understanding about what it is that makes their girl feel so strongly about this. Is she insecure? Then he needs to reassure her. Does she feel he gives the porn more attention than her? Then he needs to remedy it. It's important to understand and empathize with her. But whatever he does, he should NEVER promise to stop unless he truly feels he has the resolve to never look at it again. To promise without the balls to back it up is only going to end up hurting the relationship more than actually looking at the porn itself. Instead, he should try to get her to understand that his interest in pornography is not a reflection on her or their relationship.
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Millions de baisers,
=*=Angel
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