I was spanked as a child. Hand, belt, switch. There were few occasions when I did get spanked but when I did I deserved it. Either acting up in the store or yelling/talking back to my dad. I never got any bruises or blisters. They didnt do it to hurt me only to show me what I was doing was unnacceptable. And it worked. I cant remember getting spanked past the age of like 6 and even before then they were few and far between.
I did make one mistake though. I once ran from my dad when he tried to spank me. What did he do...sat there.. he knew I had to come bcak sometime. Never did that again.
Will I spank my children. I can't say for sure now because I'm not close to that situation yet but I'm sure if I feel its necessary I will. I've seen the results of the "you cant have tv/phone/computer for 2 weeks" discipline and it doesnt work. I watched my parents do it with my sister but it always turned out with my sister whining and begging till a few days later they gave in and let her have it back. Next month it would be the same thing. I think thats one of the reasons my sister is like that today, she never learns from her past experiences.
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