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Theresa · 06-26-2003, 01:44 AM

Uptown -
I couldn't agree more with you about what you had to say about having an opinion about this and acting all happy. I think it's easier for people to defend looking at the porn and pictures because it's so widely accepted now. I'm attracted to women too but I can't help that something doesn't feel right and that I have a different opinion. I don't like how we are automatically "wrong" about stuff like this with out b/fs (Am I right? Have others experienced this or is it just me?) Part of me wishes I didn't feel this way, I would have peace of mind much easier!!

I was questioning my b/f about why he looks at porn and pictures and he said something to the extent of "Why does it bother you so much, it's not like I'm thinking about them when we're have sex." The thing is the thought of him thinking about the girls while he was with me never once crossed my mind, let alone had I ever accused him of such a thing. This makes me wonder why it was even in his head if I never mentioned it!! Hopefully a past g/f brought it up so he assumed I thought it too. That is the only reason I can come up with that justifies why he would think of such an awful thing and then defend himself about that. The only reason other than him actually thinking about the women while hes with me. . . I suppose he should know that if he was thinking about them I would have to break up with him because sex is too intimate for something like that. I'm not gong to bring it up again though, it's a waste of time he just gets pissed.

Xapphire -
I am turned on by porn but not very much and it doesn't interest me. If someone puts it on I won't walk out of the room though just because I don't want to seem like a bitch. Especially in a room full of guys it's a waste of breath to say "porn is stupid".
Some of the guys in porn I've seen have no idea what they are doing too because they don't have to worry about pleasing a girl, they just have to make it look good for the camera. This could be misleading to guys.
I don't like the idea of porn at all. Watching other people is weird to me. I suppose I'm conservative when it comes to this stuff. I think the fact that the people making porn don't even love each other devalues sex. I kinda get turned on by porn but not even half as much as I do with my b/f. To me it's like indulging in something that your mind tells you isn't right, like cheating or robbing a bank or something. Thats my opinion and I know it's probably different thats why I'm sharing it. I really don't expect anyone to agree with it.

Watching a video of me and him would be so much sexier and so much more of a turn on than two other random hot people could ever be. It's porn, but it's us, and it's intimate.

06-26-2003, 01:44 AM	#23 (permalink)
Theresa Upright Location: Olympia Washington	Uptown - I couldn't agree more with you about what you had to say about having an opinion about this and acting all happy. I think it's easier for people to defend looking at the porn and pictures because it's so widely accepted now. I'm attracted to women too but I can't help that something doesn't feel right and that I have a different opinion. I don't like how we are automatically "wrong" about stuff like this with out b/fs (Am I right? Have others experienced this or is it just me?) Part of me wishes I didn't feel this way, I would have peace of mind much easier!! I was questioning my b/f about why he looks at porn and pictures and he said something to the extent of "Why does it bother you so much, it's not like I'm thinking about them when we're have sex." The thing is the thought of him thinking about the girls while he was with me never once crossed my mind, let alone had I ever accused him of such a thing. This makes me wonder why it was even in his head if I never mentioned it!! Hopefully a past g/f brought it up so he assumed I thought it too. That is the only reason I can come up with that justifies why he would think of such an awful thing and then defend himself about that. The only reason other than him actually thinking about the women while hes with me. . . I suppose he should know that if he was thinking about them I would have to break up with him because sex is too intimate for something like that. I'm not gong to bring it up again though, it's a waste of time he just gets pissed. Xapphire - I am turned on by porn but not very much and it doesn't interest me. If someone puts it on I won't walk out of the room though just because I don't want to seem like a bitch. Especially in a room full of guys it's a waste of breath to say "porn is stupid". Some of the guys in porn I've seen have no idea what they are doing too because they don't have to worry about pleasing a girl, they just have to make it look good for the camera. This could be misleading to guys. I don't like the idea of porn at all. Watching other people is weird to me. I suppose I'm conservative when it comes to this stuff. I think the fact that the people making porn don't even love each other devalues sex. I kinda get turned on by porn but not even half as much as I do with my b/f. To me it's like indulging in something that your mind tells you isn't right, like cheating or robbing a bank or something. Thats my opinion and I know it's probably different thats why I'm sharing it. I really don't expect anyone to agree with it. Watching a video of me and him would be so much sexier and so much more of a turn on than two other random hot people could ever be. It's porn, but it's us, and it's intimate.