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I just can't reconcile teaching two kids not to hit each other by hitting them....what does this teach them? If the argument is that you can't reason with them, they certainly aren't going to be able to differentiate you hitting them from them hitting their brother.
I don't believe that kids should fear their parents. To me, that is an unhealthy relationship that can be long lasting and far reaching into the kid's future. There are many other deterrants (sp?) that can "sting" just as much. Here is an example:
When I was in 1st grade, I stole a pudding from the cafeteria line. I got caught. My parents were called. Now many parents would spank their kid for stealing. My parents chose instead to not let me watch "The Wizard of Oz", which at the time (1981) was on TV just once a year around Easter. I had been looking forward to watching it for months, and they made me go to bed that night early.
THe biggest problem a lot of parents have is that they give their kid too many chances. I think you simply say "Do that one more time and no Nintendo for a week," and when they do it again, the Nintendo gets locked up. And no backing down either. If you say the Nintendo is gone for a week but then let them use it two days later for "good behavior", then the kid has won.
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