We look at porn together, or he looks on his own and comes snuggling in with me after, aroused. I have no problem with this most of the time. If he's been up til 2 am, then I'm grumpy, but that's the rare exception not the norm.
We both search out fair skinned, attractive redheads in our nekkid women viewings. I'm neither fair skinned (pale from lack of sun does not count) nor am I a redhead. Does his fascination with them bother me? No, because I share it. I find them gorgeous creatures and if I could play with one I'd be grinning from ear to ear as I imagine a cat with a saucer of cream would be.
He enjoys many different types of women, some I don't find attractive, and I enjoy many different types of women, some he doesn't find attractive. Just because he enjoys looking at them, does not mean he wants to be with that person though, and just because I enjoy looking at women, does not mean I would leave my husband to do so.
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Quoting Theresa:
....because I knew I wasn't jealous of the girls because they are just stupid attention whores.
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Does this go for the girls who post in exhibition too? Because they choose to share their bodies (or faces or whatever, just using bodies for space reasons :-P), or have agreed to their S/O sharing their bodies on an internet board? I really hope that isn't how you feel, but we all have the right to our opinions.
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Mainly, I'm just jealous of where his sexual attention is aimed. When it's at some fluezy on his computer screen and not me, I'm jealous.
I'm jealous because I am the only woman that should be turning him on. I know he will be attracted to other women, as I will be attracted to other men (and women as well) BUT getting turned on is something to save for your SO.
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You've never been turned on by porn? Or do you not share the interest? Hell, I've been turned on reading a cheesy romance novel. I do not agree that only my S/O has or should have the ability to arouse me. I get aroused listening to a song by a new artist a friend had me check out, her voice sends little shivers of excitement through me, and I want to jump my husband after listening to her. Her song is not about sex in any way shape or form, but her voice is pure sex, in my mind at any rate. I think my life would be pretty boring if nothing turned me on besides my husband. That would cut out naughty thoughts of wearing no panties under short skirts just because, naughty thoughts of what the vibration of that gorgeous motorcycle could do to my bits if I could ride it, naughty thoughts of every nature that don't relate specifically to my husband. Blah!
Not trying to jump down your throat here Theresa, just what you said I don't agree with and it makes more sense to quote and answer than to talk without a reference point.
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If a guy ever told me that he had to go look at other women in order to get aroused to have sex with me,I think I'd cry for days.
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I hope it'd be after you gave him a solid knee to the groin for being an ass, and I think all of us would cry too, assuming it was our S/O and not some jerkoff on the street or in a bar we don't know, as some guys are just jerks and say mean things to get a rise out of people (some girls too).
However, does -your- S/O do this?
If he doesn't, and I assume he doesn't, otherwise I doubt he'd still be your S/O, he obviously finds you attractive. Why do we feel that we have to be his perfect girl? Is he your perfect guy? Mine isn't, he is not my perfect image of a guy. But I love him more than I can express. Looks are not the be all end all damnit! I am not saying that I'm not physically attracted to him, because I very much am, but he's not the type I drool over in a magazine, and I sure as hell didn't settle for him. He's the one I want, and those pictures in that magazine are just eyecandy.
Amethyst, why does it being on the internet bother you? If you watch porn together, and look through magazines together, you share the interest, right? Or are you just doing it because he wants you to?
I would be bothered if it weren't an internet board, if it were through irc or some other chat program where he's talking to a specific person and getting her pictures and telling her that she's a beautiful woman. That would bother me, that's personal. The titty board is not personal, it's random. Those same pictures could be in a magazine someplace, they're just on the internet instead of on paper, and people post their thanks because otherwise the person who posted gets told by lack of responses that their work in searching out the stuff, organizing it and then posting it on the boards is worthless, nobody appreciates it.
As for him saying to a husband that he was a very lucky man, why does that exclude him from that "lucky man" club? I think all of the couples on the exhibition boards are very lucky, they have each other and they have a community where they can share themselves anyway they choose.