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Theresa · 06-25-2003, 03:07 AM

As for the subject matter:
I get upset when my b/f looks at naked pictures of other girls. I have told him and I know he will never stop. I don't expect him to ever stop. He would still do it simply for the fact of making it known that I can't "control" him. He did stop making comments about other girls though. I told him it was making me feel inadequate. I am hoping he stopped because it was hurting my feelings as opposed to stopping because he didn't want to hear me bitch and cry about it.
I didn't realize in the beginning that it was actually jealousy because I knew I wasn't jealous of the girls because they are just stupid attention whores. I also feel that I have a damn good body. Mainly, I'm just jealous of where his sexual attention is aimed. When it's at some fluezy on his computer screen and not me, I'm jealous.
I'm jealous because I am the only woman that should be turning him on. I know he will be attracted to other women, as I will be attracted to other men (and women as well) BUT getting turned on is something to save for your SO.
One time when talking about girls gone wild he said, "I get horny looking at them and then I come to you." I had to explain to him why this was something that I was less than happy about. I may be wrong but I'm guessing he thought I should be flattered by that statement. Maybe I should feel lucky that he decides to come to me after all these other girls turn him on? I expect that my SO will be getting turned on by me and only me.
My b/f has explained many times, "It's physiological, men like looking at naked women, it's natural, etc." I stopped asking because I gave up at ever getting a legitimate answer. Apparently hes saying men revert to animals when it comes to stuff like this. Well this is farse. Some of them justify their urge sleep around with a part of them still feels like it has to fornicate with as many women as possible to ensure their genes get to the next generation. Funny how so many of them don't want children though . . . It's BS, a lame excuse.
"Honey, I couldn't help staring at the hot chick that walked by while I was supposed to be listening to you, it's the apelike caveman inside of me"
If we actually couldn't control the inhibitions that society represses (but most men claim they can't control) we'd all be running around naked and shitting wherever and whenever it was necessary. As ridiculous as it sounds you'll learn in any psych class that it's true.
Now that I know that my guy likes endowed blonde women, as a 36B brunette, of course I feel inadequate to him!! As attractive and we both think I am, he still thinks something else is better. Am I supposed to feel ok with this? It's hard to accept the fact that someone settled for the way you look. He might not, I don't know, but if he feels like he can't do any better, he still wants to. Even if he thinks I'm hot, theres always hotter. I find this hard to swallow at times even though I am still very confident about how I look.
The main reason I don't like him looking at porn and naked chicks though is because I get jealous when he focuses his sexual attention on anything but me. I don't think it's acceptable. He chose me and I'm the one who gets that attention.

06-25-2003, 03:07 AM	#12 (permalink)
Theresa Upright Location: Olympia Washington	As for the subject matter: I get upset when my b/f looks at naked pictures of other girls. I have told him and I know he will never stop. I don't expect him to ever stop. He would still do it simply for the fact of making it known that I can't "control" him. He did stop making comments about other girls though. I told him it was making me feel inadequate. I am hoping he stopped because it was hurting my feelings as opposed to stopping because he didn't want to hear me bitch and cry about it. I didn't realize in the beginning that it was actually jealousy because I knew I wasn't jealous of the girls because they are just stupid attention whores. I also feel that I have a damn good body. Mainly, I'm just jealous of where his sexual attention is aimed. When it's at some fluezy on his computer screen and not me, I'm jealous. I'm jealous because I am the only woman that should be turning him on. I know he will be attracted to other women, as I will be attracted to other men (and women as well) BUT getting turned on is something to save for your SO. One time when talking about girls gone wild he said, "I get horny looking at them and then I come to you." I had to explain to him why this was something that I was less than happy about. I may be wrong but I'm guessing he thought I should be flattered by that statement. Maybe I should feel lucky that he decides to come to me after all these other girls turn him on? I expect that my SO will be getting turned on by me and only me. My b/f has explained many times, "It's physiological, men like looking at naked women, it's natural, etc." I stopped asking because I gave up at ever getting a legitimate answer. Apparently hes saying men revert to animals when it comes to stuff like this. Well this is farse. Some of them justify their urge sleep around with a part of them still feels like it has to fornicate with as many women as possible to ensure their genes get to the next generation. Funny how so many of them don't want children though . . . It's BS, a lame excuse. "Honey, I couldn't help staring at the hot chick that walked by while I was supposed to be listening to you, it's the apelike caveman inside of me" If we actually couldn't control the inhibitions that society represses (but most men claim they can't control) we'd all be running around naked and shitting wherever and whenever it was necessary. As ridiculous as it sounds you'll learn in any psych class that it's true. Now that I know that my guy likes endowed blonde women, as a 36B brunette, of course I feel inadequate to him!! As attractive and we both think I am, he still thinks something else is better. Am I supposed to feel ok with this? It's hard to accept the fact that someone settled for the way you look. He might not, I don't know, but if he feels like he can't do any better, he still wants to. Even if he thinks I'm hot, theres always hotter. I find this hard to swallow at times even though I am still very confident about how I look. The main reason I don't like him looking at porn and naked chicks though is because I get jealous when he focuses his sexual attention on anything but me. I don't think it's acceptable. He chose me and I'm the one who gets that attention.