Gebbinn

Spanking for the sake of causing pain, doesnt.

However spanking is a very real, very "right now" form of punishment. IF it is used as a tool, rather than a means of lashing out at a child, then it can and is very productive.

For instance.. my child is misbehaving in a store.. she is only 5 years old, and has very little concept of time at this point. I try putting her in the cart, but she climbs out every time I turn my back, I try telling her if she doesnt behave she loses play time, loses TV time, will have to take a time out when we are in a place where that can happen, but nothing is working, she is intent on being a little hellion and pushing the limits. I take her aside, tell her I have tried to get her to be have and she would not do so, I turn her around, give her one swat on the bottom, and then ask her why she recieved it. She tells me why, then I ask her to suggest what she can do to avoid it happening again. On her own she tells me that she needs to behave, and do as I ask of her while we are in the store. The rest of the time we are there, she is an angel. She understands her actions had an immediate consequence. She wasnt hurt physically, rather the emotional shock of the spanking was all that was needed. And when we got home, we went in the back yard and played with the puppies for an hour so she could burn off all that energy she was holding back.

This actually happened less than a week ago. So when you say it serves no purpose, I must and will disagree