I was in this situation once. I went to college near home, and she went away. We stayed in contact, even when she started seeing a guy. Long story short, she became ingaged after college, and moved back to my town. She let it be known (without saying it outright) that all I had to do was say the word, and she'd drop him for me. We had only gone out once together, and I felt that she was more comfortable staying friends and didn't pursue it.
Well of course I was mister honerable and wouldn't even consider it. Even though I had heard things from mutual friends that made me question why she was even marrying him. We talked about it a year or so later and only then discovered that we BOTH had huge crushes on each other, and were afraid to act on them. Our one date? What I saw was her nervousness at finally dating me. She just assumed that I wanted to stay friends when I didn't ask her out again. Anyway it seems she had been hoping that I'd help her get up the courage to leave her fiancee etc. etc.
He was a big problem for her with drugs, alcohol etc. for awhile but finally straightened out for her. She has that affect on men. Meanwhile we hardly ever talk or write because I'm worried that he would get the wrong idea.
They're still married, and so am I, but I'll always wonder what would have happened if I had the balls to do what I wanted to do.
Sorry, still long. Bottom line. Look at what she means to you now, and then decide what to do. Fuck her jerk BF. She is what is important. If she's that good a friend, then don't let this guy break you up.
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