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Originally posted by Double D
From your stance, it sounds as if as a child you had the experience of being under complete control by your parents.
How was that done? Instilling respect (if so, how ?) Harsh punishment? Fear?
How do you plan to have complete control over your children, if you choose to have them?
I breast fed both my children- which some studies say tends to result in kids with less of a chance of getting fat.
That was the only time I had any semblance of complete control over what they ate. When food is offered to a baby, he/she can chose to eat it or not.
*Not* means spitting it back at you - repeatedly. As they grow, they become more involved in their food choices and very much more influenced by all around them.
I was a divorced mom - no child support- trying to better myself through college education.
We were poor (subsidized housing, food stamps, et al.)
Even then, things like fresh fruits & vegetables, lean cuts of meat, cost a lot. Try filling up your grocery cart with them now and see what your bill is.
I did keep healthful foods in the house, but about twice a month, my son and I walked to Wendy's, about a half mile away, because he either enjoyed the food or wanted their current promotional kids meal item.
The point is, it was a special treat going out for a meal together, that I'd scraped together $5 to buy us.
Another poster in this thread cited Bennigans and other restaurants of that price range. My son and I never saw the inside of that type of restaurant for a number of years, unless it was someone else's treat.
Fast food is cheap...that is partially why there is a connection between low income folks & fat.
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My mom did have control of my environment when I was a kid. She kept things away from me that were bad for me. She was smart enough to do that without harsh punishment or fear. I was
never hit in my life by either one of my parents. A good parent doesn't have to hit their kids. She taught me respect through a lot of patience. I probably won't have kids because I don't have the patience and I'm way too selfish. I wouldn't bring a kid into the world until that changes.
My mom was also divorced and didn't have much money. Actually, if it wasn't for my grandparents letting me and my sister live with them I would have been homeless for about a year. So that's no excuse either. My mom lived in a hotel and still spent every evening with me and my sister. She cooked a good meal every single day no matter what. No excuses ever. Of course we had pizza and crap like that at times. Everyone does, but it didn't happen much. The problem is most parents take the easy "cheap" way out. How can a parent say that they care about their children when they take the "cheap" way out every single day? Let's face it. There are a ton of parents that do that.
Even after all the stuff that my mom did my sister turned out to be a lazy blob. So maybe I don't know shit. Or maybe my sister has always been a lazy pile of crap. That sounds about right. I've known that ever since I was a kid. At least my sister doesn't put the blame elsewhere.