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Originally posted by Double D
From your stance, you must have been the subject of complete control by your parents.
How was that done? Instilling respect (if so, how ?) Harsh punishment? Fear?
How do you plan to have complete control over your children, if you choose to have them?
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Okay I feel the need to step in for sixate real quick and mention that I do not think he ment TOTAL control over kids so much as SOME control. Its true too. Parents today are showing less and less control over their own kids. Harsh punishment is unneeded (except in rare cases) but punishment IS. To many parents today see telling their children to go to their room or to go sit in the corner as harsh punishment. Instilling respect? Thats a good place to start. On how so.. How about being a respectful person. Thats all it would have taken my parents despite they are not really.
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I breast fed both my children- which some studies say tends to result in kids with less of a chance of getting fat.
That was the only time I had any semblance of complete control over what they ate. When food is offered to a baby, he/she can chose to eat it or not.
*Not* means spitting it back at you - repeatedly. As they grow, they become more involved in their food choices and very much more influenced by all around them.
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While you can't ever have COMPLETE 100% control. You can sure have 98.65% control. I mean up untill your child goes to school you SHOULD be buying almost all of what they eat. The only exception at that point is while they are at a babysitter. And if its a babysitter you use alot YES I would recommend seeing what they are feeding them. If its something you disaprove of then tell the babysitter that. Bring food from home if you have to. Once they start going to school you should still have alot of control. You can still control breakfast and dinner and if you really want you can make them brown bag it for lunch. They may not be the most popular kid in school but they also wont have a heartattack at 30.
In the end though you are right. You can't be there all the time. But you can instill the little bit of knoweldge of consequences for their actions.