gibber71

Well,first of all,you have to find someone who is open to the concept of sex and companionship as an outlet of expression rather than sex and companionship being a means to an end,that being in a relationship.

Then you and the other person have to be mature enough to realize what exactly the reasons are for wanting this to happen. It is not about getting laid,or getting the goods without a commitment.There is a very big responsibility that goes along with this type of arrangement. Sexual safety,discretion,respect and allowing the freedom to exist as individuals minus the bullshit.

Usually older people have this arrangement rather than younger but it isn't exclusive.Reasons people do this is because they are too busy for a relationship, are concentrating on a career,travel alot,have been in relationships and have decided it's not for them or are like me.I am a very private person,who has been in long term relationships before,but now I choose when and where I want or need social stimulation.

I would literally go crazy if I had to interact with a partner on a daily basis unless of course they allowed me to be my usual loner self.And honestly,it isn't about the sex.The sex is actual secondary to the companionship. Furthermore,this arrangement isn't cold or unfeeling but the opposite.Two people can become very close yet maintain the boundaries without crossing the line,it just depends on the individuals involved.

I was told once that because I choose this lifestyle, I have loose morals. This from a woman who was twice divorced and cheating on her fiance with her boss. Like I said before,whatever floats your boat.