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Originally Posted by aberkok
MM I agree with this. Maybe I am still trying to fight my wiring, or maybe there's something wrong with me (I don't think there is) but yes, I am thinking about sex a lot of the time when talking to women. More accurately put, I am concentrating on not thinking about sex. I can't put a number on it, but certainly a few times a day. The more attractive the woman, the more I think of it.
So there is truth to suspecting that men have sex on their minds at all times.
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This is where I get confused. Is it wrong to think about sex as much as we do? Is this a disorder of the mind? Is this what's "wrong" with men? Are we only supposed to do what women want us to do, even in our minds?
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What do men, the dominant segment of society, the hegemon, stand to lose from this perception?
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I'm not comfortable with this position, or maybe it's the language. For one, women in many parts of the Western world aren't the second-class citizens they once were. Second, men have and often do get caught up in unjust situations based on this premise that all men are capable and likely predisposed towards predatory or otherwise depraved actions. False accusations of men who work in schools (or otherwise with children), the sometimes unwarranted disproportionate treatment in family law, etc., are all based on some assumption that men are by their nature a kind of danger.
Maybe it's true and I'm a hopeless idealist. That doesn't change the fact that it makes me uncomfortable.
Maybe I'm a closet womanizer in denial.
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Originally Posted by mixedmedia
Well, it did confuse me and I am sorry for doubting the level-headedness you usually display in touchy conversations such as this one.
And I want to state very clearly, that I don't hate men. There are men who participate on this site whose opinions of women I do not respect and the level of tolerance and commiseration for these opinions here has always bothered me. So much so that I eventually stopped contributing to these types of discussions at all. In fact, I think this is the first time in a couple of years that I have posted to a thread about male/female relations at TFP. And it already feels like a mistake..
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Yeah, I usually feel like a jerk when I do this, but I usually do it to make a point. I suppose I rely too much on people knowing what I'm actually like for them to "get" what I'm doing.