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Originally Posted by MSD
Everyone has to be respectful of others' boundaries, but everyone also has to accept that as a species, certain members are attracted to certain other members and will act on it. Nobody has a right to be pushy or creepy about it, or to harass others, but we all (yes, even us guys) need to expect that we will receive unwelcome advances and that if they're not creepy or pushy, even if they're awkward and transparent, that we just have to ignore or politely decline them because it's part of human interaction.
Some people are out there just looking for sex, and there's nothing wrong with it as long as they go about it without being pushy or threatening.
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Again, if I don't know you, don't approach me in public, regardless of your intentions.
I don't know you. I can't read your mind. I have no idea what your intentions are. In addition, the more you insist that you "mean no harm," you're a "good guy," the more suspicious I will become. Can't I just be female in public (horrors!
...I mean, there I am, just
being a lady at you! ) without some guy approaching me? Just because I'm a straight woman and you're a straight guy doesn't give you a right to approach me, regardless of your intentions.
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Originally Posted by MSD
The tone of your post I'm replying to seems to imply that that there's something wrong with men who are looking for casual sex.There isn't.
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Nothing wrong with a guy being interested in casual sex. There *is* something wrong, however, with approaching a woman he doesn't know and expecting a response from her, whether he just wants to say hi and see if she'll engage in a little conversation, or if he's looking for an insta-hookup. As I wrote above, you don't get to *expect* a response, think you're *deserving* of a response just because I'm a woman. What I deserve is to be able to be myself in public without having guys think it's their right to approach me, and that they're deserving of a response.