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Originally Posted by thirtiesgirl
Yes, this is true, and I'm not disputing that fact. But that doesn't preclude women's perfectly rational suspicions of men they don't know. Just because you know you're a "nice guy" who would never "do that" to a women, we don't know it. So think twice before you approach us, especially if you're thinking of making a comment about anything physical.
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Gah...
Like I totally understand and get where you're coming from. But it's just sooo... negative, I guess, I can't find the word I'm after.
That position seems to completely disempower women and makes guys out to all be monsters.
I know that's not what you think, and I understand where the mind set comes from, it's just soo..... ergghh
But like a lot of things, it's just an unfortunately fact and reality.
Back on topic!
While going for a little ride I gave this some thought.
It's the attitude of guys who do this I find shit, but I will not be made out to be a misogynist asshat for complementing a woman on her looks. I don't very often do it, when I do I'm quite genuine, and believe it or not I'm not trying to get into women's pants when I do.
Social media has changed things, a lot, and the textual medium is tricky. There's a lot that can be read into something that simply isn't there. I know full well a lot of guys use it to hook up, I know a lot of women use it for the same purpose. I think I like the analogy that FB is just a venue, and like any bar or pub, there's pretentious wankers, uptight self involved barbie dolls, and fuck heads that try to fuck anything with a vagina and legs.... and then there's the real sad folk who don't even care for the legs.
I think the problems women will find is that FB is a particularly big venue, so there's a staggeringly large amount of dicks. Like a lot of lifes little annoyances you just have to ignore it and move on. There's a lot of good peeps out there who care more about the quality of ones heart.... and blood type...
But like I said in my earler post, I'm not on FB, and amazingly resistant to jump on board the social media craze. It probably says a lot about me, I don't know, but I like not being on the radar. I have my close friends who I give a shit about and who give a shit about me, the rest is just white noise to me, and I'd rather do without it.