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Originally Posted by ring
I somewhat understand why Niner brought forth your other thread in another thread different than this thread. His sometimes bristly style of communication aside....it makes sense to me. It's all kinda intertwined.
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While my sex life is intertwined with my views on sex, Plan9 dragged a post I made about my own current mental state into a discussion about gender stereotypes in pornography consumption. Since the post he linked to was about my own relationships and sexual activity, and not my porn consumption (which had already been determined in the thread to be separate entities), it was off topic. Its only point in being brought over was to discredit my opinion by showing me to be "not of the sexual norm"... instead of directly attacking my point.
It's what someone does when they don't have enough to stand on with their own points, so they attempt to discredit the speaker. It's weak, indirect arguing.
It's also why I haven't linked my own website to this site. Because I know that someone, in some discussion, will go blast through the whole thing, select quotes from the last three years, cobble them together and start waving a finger going "Oh god, look what she likes! Her words are worthless! A girl who has had that much sex has obviously been sexually abused (sorry, no), can't know what real love is, has emotional issues, and has no value as a person or a presenter of sexually-focused debate".
Which has happened
repeatedly before. It's annoying. I apparently have so much experience that it doesn't count.
He does communicate bristly, which I'm beyond used to. I don't mind it, I tend to enjoy it, but it would be nice if he discussed as well as he bristled without having to revert to accusations of feminism (also, no-- the last major feminist I encountered... oh, we had issues) and personal offense.
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You've talked about being in the porn industry,
& its dark side you were hurt by, and your attempts at compartmentalizing sex partners.
My 53 year self would advise you to get the heck out of LA & away from this atmosphere.
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Quick, off-topic, cut in here... I'm not in porn. I've never been in porn. The most I ever do is hang out on set and chat with people, help paint the occasional set and, lately, work on scripts. It's been a lot of fun. I've met so many interesting and oddly creative people that have a similar mindset to sex that I do. A lot of people have this view of what the "porn industry" is like. I certainly haven't seen all of it, or even most of it, but I do know that it is
a lot less seedy than people think it is.
I've actually yet to be on a "seedy" porn set. I've never seen any drug use, aside from weed by the set construction guys. About half of the people don't even smoke cigarettes. I've never seen a girl pressured into performing, or made to feel like a piece of meat. I've never seen anyone treated rudely when they weren't acting rude in the first place.
My post about people not caring who one is as a person was not about "the porn biz". My post was about the supposed average male's attempts at internet "seduction" and his disregard for social norms because he's communicating in text.
And now... back to work. Friday will end eventually.