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Poetry, I think you and I are soul sisters from another mother. You, however, have the gift of expressing yourself far better than I can. I've wondered exactly the same thing many a time. Not necessarily about FB, but about why so many guys think it's ok to approach women and the first thing out of their mouths is a comment on the physical.
Lindy, I'm also a gal with big boobins, and in my younger days, I used to often get comments about them from random male strangers. I don't know how you feel about it when you receive these kinds of comments, but after a few naive years of feeling flattered by them, I started to tire of it very quickly. Why is it so mystifying for guys to learn how to approach women - in person or online - and comment on something other than their physicality? I mean, I understand how difficult it can be for guys to find the personal... I don't know... chuztpah?... to start up a conversation with a woman he finds attractive but doesn't personally know. But does it always have to start with the physical? (And for those who might argue that "women should stop complaining about how men approach them, and just approach men themselves," I'm all for it and have done so myself many times. But this isn't a discussion about that issue.)
To answer your query, Poetry, about the reason strange guys on social networking sites send people "nice pix" messages... I'd agree that most of them are testing the waters to see if it will lead to casual sex. I won't say all, because I'm willing to suspend my disbelief that a handful (a very small handful) of guys who do this are really just trying to let you know they find you attractive, with no ulterior motives. But I'd estimate that at least 98% of them have an ulterior motive, and their stilted "compliment," "nice pix," is guy shorthand for "let's chat briefly, and I hope you're willing to engage in casual sex in the very near future."
As far as what to do about it... I honestly have no idea, other than hitting the ignore button, as previously suggested. But I think it's a valid point to discuss and I'm glad to read that you brought it up on FB, and sparked an interesting discussion here.
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