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Originally Posted by Poetry
What I objected to was nothing to do with the objectification or degradation of women in porn, but with the idea that Porn For Women is supposed to be soft, fluffy, and emotional, but Porn For Men is supposed to be hardcore and objectifying.
That's sexist. That's what bothers me.
Why don't we just call fluffy softcore porn fluffy softcore porn? Why does it need to be Porn for Women?
Personally, I could be using a Hitachi and doing DP with two dildos and not be able to get off to softcore without fantasizing about something complete different than what was on the screen.
And it's not just about what I like. It is truly sexist to describe porn as "female-friendly" because the girls are smiling in it and not taking a load in the face. That's like calling Hondas "Asian Friendly" or hi-top sneakers "Black Friendly".
Don't assume what I will or will not like because I am a chick. The stereotype is not appreciated.
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I think XKCD summed it up better than I could. I feel you on that poetry, I feel the same way about porn on the male side. I don't want to see "Hot Slutty MILFs Part 6" when I'm jacking off, but being male and talking to other males about porn, that's weird. "How can you NOT like that, she is totally HOT!"... because *I* don't find her hot. Hell, I'm not a big lesbian scene guy (which apparently the porn industry says I should be into cause I'm male) because when I see two women going at it my first thought it, "Well, there are two women that don't want my penis."
Give me some suicide girls and I'll wack myself into a coma.
I think it comes down to sexist stereotypes that society still has that boils over into porn. I think it has changed over the years with "indie" style porn companies and websites like suicide girls showing "non-mainstream" girls in a good light. Like anything, we need to fix the root cause of the problem and then things like this will rectify themselves over time.
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Originally Posted by Poetry
Topic 1: No girl I have ever met has liked ugly girls in their porn. What a moodkill.
Topic 2: REALLY? I have an incredibly "lively" drive. I have more experience (and, often, ability) than most of the men I have slept with. Whenever I have a boyfriend, I raid his porn stash for my own use, and it's rarely hardcore enough. My last boyfriend was a major porn director, the one before that built a swing club in Hollywood. I surround myself with sex, preferably hardcore. I have a sexual bucket list. I haven't cheated on a partner in ten years, and I'm 27.
Like an alcoholic living across from a bar?? Jesus Christ.
Why can't we judge people on their personality and their values as opposed to their sexual preferences and drive?
Gah.
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I think remy was talking about the "bridesmaid situation" for porn. Where the woman getting married doesn't want her bridemaids looking better than she does, so that she gets all the attention. Hot chicks in porn would steal her sexual spotlight. That's my .02.
Also, people cheat and a high sex drive doesn't mean they will cheat. People with low sex drives still cheat, because let's face it, people are going to cheat no matter what their biological function towards sex is. Cheaters going cheat.