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Originally Posted by RogueGypsy
To gain control you need to find your cues, what gets you off. Everyone's a little different, some get off on the reactions/sound/sight of their partner. Others get off on their own sensations and thoughts and still others get off on who knows what. I have a friend who dated a wild Hippie Chick for awhile, now every time he smells Patchouli he almost jizz's in his pants. Figure out which way you swing and focus on the other. This has always worked for me. Get to know yourself and you can last for minutes or hours, your choice.
Other things that work well are pausing, as suggested above. Don't wait until you're ready to blow, but when you feel it starting to rise. Pause. Changing position or just stopping and kissing or playing with her breasts works well for a pause. Pull-out and slap her clit with your dick or just slide it across her labia. Porn stars do that for a reason. Changing sensation will slow the charge.
Masturbate before sex. It'll take you longer to recharge for the second blast.
Read the Kama Sutra. It contains hundreds of techniques and practices that will give you control of your body.
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This is all solid advice.
Especially the part about slowing down *before* you start to get near the point of cumming. It has to be in advance.
You have to be in touch with your senses on this so you know the point where you *start* to get over excited. If you're unsure when that point is, then grab a bottle of lube and get masturbating until you know exactly when to take it steady, and then begin getting used to a constant rythm thats comfortable and under control.
Also a BIG part of being able to last is in your breathing. If you're taking short fast interrupted breaths, you'll tend not to last even a 5th as long as if you're taking slow and long breaths. Slower longer breaths have the physical effect of relaxing you, and focussing on that breathing will also keep the mental stimulation down too.
Overall, it comes (excuse the pun) down to being in tune with your own internal signals and senses.. once you're aware of what they are and can identify them, then you can start developing control, then over time that control will become automatic and soon enough you'll be able to constantly shag the living daylights out of someone non-stop for as long as you like without even having to think about anything except, well, shagging the living daylights out of them
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Originally Posted by fat bike
I hear kegels help so if anyone has thoughts on that please let me know.
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I tend to find that the kegel thing is like an emergency brake for when you're already on the brink.
Ideally you wanna learn when to slow things down before that point so you don't need to resort to hitting the emergency brake.
Also, I was going to ask before - do you feel that the over-stimulation is more mental, or more physical ?
Because that is an important factor in how you begin to go about dealing with it.