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Poetry · 06-27-2011, 02:06 PM

Community college classes are a great way to make friends, as was suggested. Especially a creative writing class, as your love of poetry was mentioned. Or, in that vein, join a writing group. Definite socialization there.

I know there are city-based guilds for WoW, why don't you go hunt one down that has monthly meet-ups in your area, migrate your character or build a new one?

Meetup.com for hobbist groups is easy.

As for dating sites, OKC is amazing just for the socialization, especially if you blog there regularly. I know I gained several new social groups from there that, years later, I still hang out with.

I haven't been paying too much attention, but depending on your area, you could easily get involved in an SCA group or other re-enactment group that you might feel comfortable in (re: your weight) because a chunk of the men there are similar and not regarded as less for it.

Also, yes, as others have said, exercising, eating right, can do wonders for your self-esteem and that would impact your social life positively.

Personally, I like checking out the local convention centers and college campuses for various events and just tooling down there to see and meet like-minded people. Try a TED event.

There really is so much stuff out there to do, so many ways to meet people. You just need to be friendly and welcoming, as much as you can be, and you will make friends. Hell, get a dog and take him to a nearby leash-free dog park and let him make friends for you.

I know it's hard when you're feeling low about yourself. I hit those spots, too, when I wonder if I'm imposing on someone, why anyone would want to talk to me, spend time with me, because I'm not good enough or I don't compare to them on some level (or levels). You need to feel good about yourself, somehow. Get your feet under you. It'll work out.

06-27-2011, 02:06 PM	#15 (permalink)
Poetry Crazy Location: Los Angeles, CA	Community college classes are a great way to make friends, as was suggested. Especially a creative writing class, as your love of poetry was mentioned. Or, in that vein, join a writing group. Definite socialization there. I know there are city-based guilds for WoW, why don't you go hunt one down that has monthly meet-ups in your area, migrate your character or build a new one? Meetup.com for hobbist groups is easy. As for dating sites, OKC is amazing just for the socialization, especially if you blog there regularly. I know I gained several new social groups from there that, years later, I still hang out with. I haven't been paying too much attention, but depending on your area, you could easily get involved in an SCA group or other re-enactment group that you might feel comfortable in (re: your weight) because a chunk of the men there are similar and not regarded as less for it. Also, yes, as others have said, exercising, eating right, can do wonders for your self-esteem and that would impact your social life positively. Personally, I like checking out the local convention centers and college campuses for various events and just tooling down there to see and meet like-minded people. Try a TED event. There really is so much stuff out there to do, so many ways to meet people. You just need to be friendly and welcoming, as much as you can be, and you will make friends. Hell, get a dog and take him to a nearby leash-free dog park and let him make friends for you. I know it's hard when you're feeling low about yourself. I hit those spots, too, when I wonder if I'm imposing on someone, why anyone would want to talk to me, spend time with me, because I'm not good enough or I don't compare to them on some level (or levels). You need to feel good about yourself, somehow. Get your feet under you. It'll work out. __________________ "You know what? Fuck the moon! He controls our water and our women. I've had enough!"