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Shizukana · 06-16-2011, 10:24 AM

Hi folks. It's been a while since I've posted here, but I'm posing this question because I know that this community tends to be more mature than the average one when it comes to giving accurate and solid helpful advice without trolling and stuff.

I'm 28 and like a girl. We've been friends for several months now, we hang out together and with groups of friends multiple times per week. In traditional beta male fashion, I have not made my feelings known - I'm fairly certain that my feelings are at least somewhat known already, so I haven't gone out of my way to spell it out or anything. Plus, she gets hit on and has guy friends telling her they like her every other week, so I'm content to sit back and watch guys act like idiots around her and just to be her friend right now.

Anyway - I'm moving over to her side of town for business purposes and her roommates happen to be moving out soon. She began discussing, jokingly one night, that I could move in. However, she's brought it up a few more times since and I now realize she's serious. I've been over there plenty of times to hang out, drink, play video games, listen to music, etc. We both have similar dogs, similar interests, and we get along great. We also talk over FB, text, and/or email daily.

I'm fairly certain moving in ends any possibility of any sort of relationship (or f-buddy scenarios), but I have no reason to believe that she is interested in anything other than a friendship with me, either. The body language and other signs just aren't there. I also tend to believe that if she WAS interested in me, she wouldn't be offering the option of moving in, as I think, knowing her, she would want to somewhat keep her distance and move slowly on that front. The whole thing makes sense from a monetary perspective, the location of the house is decent but not EXACTLY where I want, but for some reason I get the feeling that I shouldn't do it so that I don't ruin any opportunity or possibility of something down the road. I could tell her how I feel, I'm certainly not afraid to, but literally 5 of her friends have made similar confessions lately and she always tells me how frustrated she is by it, so I don't think the timing would be great right now on that.

What do you folks think?

Thanks in advance!

06-16-2011, 10:24 AM	#1 (permalink)
Shizukana Insane Location: Plano, TX	I like girl, we're friends right now, she wants me to move in... Thoughts? Hi folks. It's been a while since I've posted here, but I'm posing this question because I know that this community tends to be more mature than the average one when it comes to giving accurate and solid helpful advice without trolling and stuff. I'm 28 and like a girl. We've been friends for several months now, we hang out together and with groups of friends multiple times per week. In traditional beta male fashion, I have not made my feelings known - I'm fairly certain that my feelings are at least somewhat known already, so I haven't gone out of my way to spell it out or anything. Plus, she gets hit on and has guy friends telling her they like her every other week, so I'm content to sit back and watch guys act like idiots around her and just to be her friend right now. Anyway - I'm moving over to her side of town for business purposes and her roommates happen to be moving out soon. She began discussing, jokingly one night, that I could move in. However, she's brought it up a few more times since and I now realize she's serious. I've been over there plenty of times to hang out, drink, play video games, listen to music, etc. We both have similar dogs, similar interests, and we get along great. We also talk over FB, text, and/or email daily. I'm fairly certain moving in ends any possibility of any sort of relationship (or f-buddy scenarios), but I have no reason to believe that she is interested in anything other than a friendship with me, either. The body language and other signs just aren't there. I also tend to believe that if she WAS interested in me, she wouldn't be offering the option of moving in, as I think, knowing her, she would want to somewhat keep her distance and move slowly on that front. The whole thing makes sense from a monetary perspective, the location of the house is decent but not EXACTLY where I want, but for some reason I get the feeling that I shouldn't do it so that I don't ruin any opportunity or possibility of something down the road. I could tell her how I feel, I'm certainly not afraid to, but literally 5 of her friends have made similar confessions lately and she always tells me how frustrated she is by it, so I don't think the timing would be great right now on that. What do you folks think? Thanks in advance! __________________ "The power of accurate observation is frequently called cynicism by those who don't have it." - George Bernard Shaw