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Originally Posted by Shadowex3
"Do as I say, not as I do, or I'll hurt you" doesn't teach children WHY they shouldn't do something, it doesn't teach them what they SHOULD have done, all it does is teach them that bigger people can make smaller people do what they want by hurting them.
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Time-outs don't teach anything either, other than that a bigger and stronger person can force you to sit in a corner. It is the conversation that takes place parallel to discipline that teaches the appropriate lesson.
Some times a conversation is enough, sometimes it isn't. When it isn't, you have to have something else to bring to the table to force the kid to listen. Revoking privileges, time-outs and spanking are all extended consequences for breaking rules. They also all boil down to a reliance on force. How, for example, can you make a kid stay in their room if they refuse to do so, other than physical force?
Spanking obviously isn't always the best or only solution but it is a tool that can be an effective deterrent.