Kids understand respect as much as anyone else, they may not have the vocabulary to articulate it but just looking at them you can tell that they feel it.
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I'm pretty sure the argument has been made (and if it hasn't I'm going to make it now) that
1. It's effective
2. It's not abuse.
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That isn't an argument, that's saying "I'm right because I say I am". Observe:
1. It's not effective
2. It is abuse.
"Do as I say, not as I do, or I'll hurt you" doesn't teach children WHY they shouldn't do something, it doesn't teach them what they SHOULD have done, all it does is teach them that bigger people can make smaller people do what they want by hurting them. On top of that controlling someone by fear and pain only works as long as they actually fear pain. As soon as they build up a pain tolerance, and they will, you're in deep shit because short of killing them there's nothing you can do to them anymore and eventually they're going to figure out that can hit back.