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Originally Posted by athom2003
Thank you all for offering your thoughts on this one. I have come up with a proposal. I will try to balance it according to the opinions received.
1.) Have honest discussion in which I give her a last chance to say the truth.
2.) I Forgive her.
3.) The marriage is off.
4.) We're still engaged, but we need time (may be 2 or 3 years) to learn to trust each other again and see how things turn out. We'll need counselling here. May be live together and see how it works.
5.) If after this period we're both satisfied with our lives, then we'll think marriage.
6.) If she messes up during step 4, then I'll forget about her.
What do you think?
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I think this is pretty reasonable and very mature of you. Give it a shot and see how it goes.
Listen, a few things. It's not easy to find someone to really love and so when you do, you might want to hold onto it. No-one is perfect. If you're really madly in love with her, imho, it is not worth packing in a relationship over an affair. Lots of people have affairs. I've heard as high as 70 percent. Whatever. Nothing in this world is black and white - especially the dos and don'ts of a relationship between a man and a woman.