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^^^^^^
What Ourcrazymodern? said included, ".... I think if you've expressed yourself adequately & she wants to partially accommodate you, you should respect her limits as well."
I strongly agree with this.
Hi Midnightskyline ... Please keep and respect your sense of release for having expressed yourself. That is your perfect right. Congratulations for having done so, and also for not having 'gone on and on about it'. Her right to only partially accomadate you , and to not show particular keen-ness is equally a perfect right.
Your request obviously had a big effect on her ... indeed, it sounds like it was uncomfortable and upsetting to her. But just imagine: even in the midst of her upset - an upset strong and intense enough to make her want to actually throw away her old clothes, she came to say you could chose one of her old shirts which would be kept.
By the way ... when you initially asked her, was it "you'd look great in a shirt .. sexy" or was it using 'fetish' language and mentioning that you dress up in them? I'm mentioning because her reaction seems as beyond what I'd expect for 'You look good in that shirt', as does your tentativity about asking in the first place. What kind of person is she generally, and how do the two of you generally get along? I'm trying to build a bigger picture than just you, her, clothes and wardrobes.
Best wishes
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