hehe thank you everyone for your responses! have certainly helped
& I also kegel! In response to my age - we are both 25. Old enough, but not overtly experienced if that makes sense. Great to have a variety of feedback and opinions on this subject - thank you for taking the time
I've come to the conclusion, like genuinegirly said, curse of the first time turn off. Better to wait it out and see how things progress, rather than judge based on the first awkward experience.