I'm sure I'm not the first to have this dilemma. I've been recently dating this guy, I really like him. He's respectful, treats me well, and was willing to wait for me to be ready to have sex in our courtship. We decided spontaneously to have sex yesterday, 3 weeks since we began seeng each other. (not my usual waiting period but it felt right so we attempted to enjoy the moment). We finally agree to seeing where things go. It feels awkward, like he's over focusing on foreplay (and to be fair, i'm not totally into foreplay...). I soon discover it's because of his smaller than average penis. I really don't mean to dwell on this, but sex is a really important part of the relationship. I'm planning on sticking it out, waiting and seeing if things get better...but how can I avoid achknowledging this? the last thing I would ever want is to make him feel negative about sex, or have bad attitudes towards it as I have noticed he's not really what you'd call a sexual person. Which is really bad news for me, because I'm very sensual and enjoy having an active, rewarding sex life... the simple solution would be to politely stop seeing him. Because sexually, we are not compatible. We slept together and I could hardly feeling anything, he seemed turned on but wasn't totally hard. I'm sorry to be so specific, I've never really experienced this before so I'm a little taken aback. I can't seem to ****** by sex or foreplay by him. It's just not really what I'm into, usually when I'm with someone it's organic, natural, and more of an instintual thing rather than feeling restricting, uncertain if they're having a good time etc...
I understand totally this is not something he can help, by any means as that is just how his body was designed. I feel sad because we connect in such an AMAZING way emotionally, instant connection - it's easy, stress free and just works...feels right in that sense. I like him so much and continue to everytime we're together.... is it possible to relearn or train myself not to place so much importance on sex? I'm just worried it's going to be really obvious soon, if we continue, that I'm not having an ****** and or just don't feel like it because it's quite frustrating
Feels cheated somehow to meet someone extraordinary that you connect with, but have zero sexual chemistry.
eeeek! advice?
