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This is my question.
Why is spanking being automatically equated to parental anger?
In my experience, I was NEVER spanked by my parents simply out of frustration or as a display of anger. I was spanked because I had been told that the consequence of breaking X rule was to receive a spanking with a wooden spoon.
I broke X rule, I got a spanking. My parents were entirely unemotional about it, if only to be disappointed that the spanking was neccessary. I was required to go get the spoon from the kitchen myself. I would usually start crying and apologizing before the tap even came, and not because it hurt. It was because my parents were following through on their rules and I quickly learned it wasn't a bluff.
For me, the worse punishment I ever got as a kid was to lose my nightlight because I was caught reading after I went to bed by it. To me, it is more a matter of making the punishment fit the crime and actually do something to deter the behavior in the future.
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Calling from deep in the heart, from where the eyes can't see and the ears can't hear, from where the mountain trails end and only love can go... ~~~ Three Rivers Hare Krishna
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